Sure, but the way you’re characterizing the group with your meme is that it was a mostly negative experience, when in reality almost everyone was kind except for one or maybe two people, and some of your comments were kind of inflammatory to boot. You’re being needlessly dramatic, and stirring the pot over one rude person online.
OK yeah, I see that. It was how it felt with many of the interactions.
I am meaning to poke fun at how varied and crazy layouts can be, but I got so much pushback for asking about a new layout. “Just learn to type right” and things like that. You were not receiving the comments.
If I was wanting to join a group in person, and even one person was an asshole, I’d question the integrity of the group.
I get that, and I’m not trying to insinuate that your feelings are invalid, just that perhaps you are giving the small negative minority more weight than it deserves.
I think that with online communities, especially ones on social media that are more ad hoc than others or than IRL groups, it’s a bit more expected to tolerate people who maybe don’t have the best communication skills. Also, with a bigger audience, there’s always a chance that someone is just having a bad day. While it sucks that that happens, it’s important to try to give people the benefit of the doubt when we can, even when they’re clearly in the wrong.
What that one person said was definitely not OK, though. Just want to be clear on that.
Thats totally likely. My interaction with lemmy is replies and negativity sticks much harder.
I really am not trying to say the community is a bunch of assholes. I found it pretty silly that ergonomic keybpards come in so many risiculously dofferent forms, and so many people were opposed to my proposed layout
That’s not too surprising; there’s a natural human bias called negativity bias which makes that a common human reaction, if not the default one. I think simply being aware of it can help give us a more rounded perspective on our own experiences.
And yeah, I get your intent wasn’t to call the community assholes, but I think it’s also fair that plenty of people interpreted it that way. Communication is a two way street, after all.
There were definitely some people who weren’t outright rude, but also perhaps not terribly sympathetic to your particular use case, and were perhaps more prescriptive than they ought to be. But there were also quite a few who thought you had a unique and valid use case that hasn’t really been explored. As an outsider, I found it to be an pretty interesting conversation you were all having.
Dude. All I am saying is that there were unkind people in the mix and it made my experience unpleasant. I am not blaming every single helpful person.
I’m perturbed at the negativity I received and am expressing it as a meme.
Sure, but the way you’re characterizing the group with your meme is that it was a mostly negative experience, when in reality almost everyone was kind except for one or maybe two people, and some of your comments were kind of inflammatory to boot. You’re being needlessly dramatic, and stirring the pot over one rude person online.
OK yeah, I see that. It was how it felt with many of the interactions.
I am meaning to poke fun at how varied and crazy layouts can be, but I got so much pushback for asking about a new layout. “Just learn to type right” and things like that. You were not receiving the comments.
If I was wanting to join a group in person, and even one person was an asshole, I’d question the integrity of the group.
I get that, and I’m not trying to insinuate that your feelings are invalid, just that perhaps you are giving the small negative minority more weight than it deserves.
I think that with online communities, especially ones on social media that are more ad hoc than others or than IRL groups, it’s a bit more expected to tolerate people who maybe don’t have the best communication skills. Also, with a bigger audience, there’s always a chance that someone is just having a bad day. While it sucks that that happens, it’s important to try to give people the benefit of the doubt when we can, even when they’re clearly in the wrong.
What that one person said was definitely not OK, though. Just want to be clear on that.
Thats totally likely. My interaction with lemmy is replies and negativity sticks much harder.
I really am not trying to say the community is a bunch of assholes. I found it pretty silly that ergonomic keybpards come in so many risiculously dofferent forms, and so many people were opposed to my proposed layout
That’s not too surprising; there’s a natural human bias called negativity bias which makes that a common human reaction, if not the default one. I think simply being aware of it can help give us a more rounded perspective on our own experiences.
And yeah, I get your intent wasn’t to call the community assholes, but I think it’s also fair that plenty of people interpreted it that way. Communication is a two way street, after all.
There were definitely some people who weren’t outright rude, but also perhaps not terribly sympathetic to your particular use case, and were perhaps more prescriptive than they ought to be. But there were also quite a few who thought you had a unique and valid use case that hasn’t really been explored. As an outsider, I found it to be an pretty interesting conversation you were all having.
simmer down ok