Joshua Nozzi

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No.

Telling someone they need to stop their abusive behavior and get their elderly cat medical help and themselves mental health help is compassion.

Dancing around the issue and trying to make them feel better about chasing their elderly cat around and yelling at him is the opposite of compassion.

I will not coddle abuses against the helpless.

Mean? It’s mean to tell you chasing your elderly cat and yelling at him for sudden behavioral problems is wrong and needs to stop?

If your goal here was to ask a bunch of cat people to make you feel better about your behavior, it was extremely misguided at best.

Your original post is chock full of entitlement and cluelessness. You even express worry that the newer young cat might remember how you’re treating the older cat, the implications of which deserve a lot more directness than I’ve given you about your behavior. Nowhere do you mention a single step you’ve taken to try to figure out what’s happening or to actually help your cat.

You posted an admission that you feel like shit for abusing your elderly cat for developing problems and you think being told firmly and in no uncertain terms that you need to have compassion and make some changes is mean?!

Grow up.

Edit: Brutal honesty is absolutely necessary when abuse is involved. Your attempt to make it a “me problem” is asinine.

A vet visit and maybe some mental health professional time for you too. It sounds like there are several problems here and it’s not all cat.

Just remember that if he’s old, he may very well be going deaf and / or senile and absolutely does not understand why you’re so angry with him all the time now when you didn’t used to be. He may not know where you are, or where he is. He’s calling out for you. For his people. For comfort.

If it’s time to say goodbye then so be it, but at least have enough compassion to give him a few weeks of good spoiling time and forgiveness before you do it. And by goodbye, I don’t mean abandoning him.

The rest of this is going to sound harsh but it needs to:

HAVE SOME DAMNED COMPASSION.

I understand your frustration, but SUCK IT UP, evaluate his health (and yours) and make some changes or hard decisions. You signed up for this when you took responsibility for this little life, knowing they get old like we do. Mistreating or abandoning him because of it makes you a shitty human being.

Do the right thing.

Remark the cat

Who hesitates toward you in the light of the door

Which opens on her like a grin.

You see the border of her dress

Is torn and stained with sand,

And you see the corner of her eye

Twists like a crooked pin.

The bitey one.

Rude! You’re not single; you have Milo!

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Give yourself most of the credit. You did more than a lot of people would do. It takes money and hard work to save an abandoned neonatal kitten. Heartfelt congratulations to you both.

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That’s a great substitute. Very best of luck to you both!

To be clear, definitely feed the kitten if you can’t get help until tomorrow or you will almost certainly lose it. The kitten lady advice is sound. You can get KMR powder and nipples/feeders at big-box pet stores. If none are around, you’re going to have to go to a 24/7 emergency vet. I can’t stress enough, you will probably lose the kitten otherwise.

Good on you for taking the baby in and even more for your willingness to get help. We had a crash course in neonatal kitten care ourselves. It’s scary how fast they can crash and you have no idea how long this one’s been without proper milk already.

BTW, definitely don’t give cow’s milk. It’s not only not helpful, it’s actually harmful. Kitten milk replacer is the only thing you can do right now. And these babies have to eat many times a day.

Way too young for you to wing it. Take it to a vet ASAP for evaluation and care instructions.