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  • It really depends on the kind of buses I think.

    I did a lot of traveling in South America and it was a great way to see different countries. A lot of the buses were pretty luxurious with 180 degree reclining seats, meals and bus attendants to give your blankets and things. You could rest comfortably during the night trips. I also met some interesting people along the way. Some trips were horrible too, but at least I have the stories.

    I probably wouldn’t do it in the US. Don’t know about other countries.

    Can you actually extend the trip and stay at some hotels/hostels or something along the way? If the buses are comfortable, and you have the time and budget, i think it would be great to visit three different countries, enjoy the foods and sites, meet people along the way, and have that time by yourself to do whatever you want.


  • Love takes many forms. Caring for someone without the expectation of a benefit you want is a form of love. If my wife came down with MS and we could no longer have sex, I would still love her, respect her and admire the mother and life partner that she is. I would also be upset that I couldn’t have sex any more.

    I personally would try to figure out the following, with or without professional help:

    • Why is she depressed? She is going through a lot. She is probably scared you are going to abandon her when she needs someone the most. She may also hate the situation that you are in because of her illness. She is also probably angry at the world that she has to suffer this. She is also probably worried for her child and feels guilty that she can’t give her more. There are so many feelings she has to process, it may be easier to just shut down.
    • If you remove the expectations of sex with her, would you be willing to stay with her as a caring and respectful partner and mother to your child?
    • You might explore non-monogamy. That’s going to be a complicated conversation, but maybe something your wife is willing to explore. Just ensure it takes into consideration all the issues in the first point.

    A good mother and partner is so hard to find. Love can take many forms. Don’t feel limited in your choices if you can make other options work out.















  • I’ve got a Frankenstein setup that wasn’t really thought out that well when I started. I’ll probably end up changing it later. If you go the Proxmox route, check out the partitioning suggestions carefully before you begin.

    I’ve got an old minitower that replaced a mini PC setup. I wanted to bring my hdd into the box and connect via SATA instead of an external HDD on USB. I’ll probably get a bigger case to make installing HDDs more convenient.

    I don’t really understand the partitioning to be honest. I have a 512gb nvme that is split up into a couple of partitions for VMs, ISO’s, backups and things for Proxmox. Then I have some other HDDs and SSDs that I use for files. Nothing in raid yet, but I’m hoping to add a couple of more HDDs. Then I’ll connect them to OMV and put them in raid.

    I’m currently hosting radarr, sonarr, prowlarr and overseerr. It’s really convenient.


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    When I was in your shoes about 8 months ago, I opted for Proxmox and don’t regret it. Since then, I’ve been able to try different NAS OSs, experiment with different hosted services, etc. it gives you a lot of freedom to set up a VM, try a bunch of stuff, and then delete it and implement a fresh solution when you’re satisfied with something.

    If you do that, you might consider having the operating system and VMs on one disk. If you decide on NAS software, many pass through the storage drives to the NAS directly.

    I’m probably going to end up with the following:

    • Base Proxmox
    • NAS VM - OMV with NFS shares available to other services, SMB for the network
    • VM for -arr services
    • Plex on an LXC - a script helped me set the up
    • (Maybe) VM for home assistant
    • VM for other home services I need, like Immich
    • Maybe a VM for hosting things publicly
    • Testing VM

    I hope this is helpful!