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Cake day: June 26th, 2023

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  • There’s another alternative, which is manually adding libraries to your project yourself instead of doing it all automatically through a package manager.

    Yes, it’s less convenient to download and import a package manually, especially if you need to do the same with a litany of dependencies, but I don’t feel like that’s a bad thing. Raising the barrier of entry for arbitrarily adding thousands of lines of other people’s code to your project would force people to think about how much of that they actually need.







  • I have preferences for things I don’t like on my food and ask for removals or substitutions regularly. Sometimes those requests are forgotten or ignored and I will get it remade, or maybe I just suck it up and deal with it if it’s takeout and I’m a half hour from where I got the food. Not once in my entire life have I considered telling people I have an allergy.

    So yes, I have thought about why a person might feel like they have to lie about severity, and my conclusion is “that person is a self-centered asshole.”


  • That’s a fair point. Handling such request is part of the job, and if someone isn’t willing to do that then they aren’t doing their job correctly. I can definitely appreciate that perspective.

    It’s unfortunate in both cases that someone with a preference and someone with an allergy don’t always get the appropriate response, but I still maintain that someone without an allergy saying that they do is just making things worse.


  • Yes, a person who asks for no onions shouldn’t get onions, but a dislike doesn’t require workspace and utensil sanitization to the same degree as an allergy.

    Someone saying they’re allergic but then getting food prepared on a surface that was just used for the thing they’re allergic to can still have a reaction to it, but it’s perfectly fine for someone who just didn’t want it on their food.

    Telling someone you’re allergic when you’re not either creates an enormous amount of extra work for the kitchen staff to avoid cross contamination, or reinforces not taking it seriously because they don’t and nothing bad happened. In both of those scenarios the person lying about being allergic is an asshole.







  • I was there for both of them, and never bothered them with any of my issues (because I could handle my own at that time).

    This might actually be a factor.

    It’s counterintuitive, but generally speaking favors build feelings of friendship more strongly for the person doing the favor than the ones who are being helped. By never asking for anything in return you may have unintentionally undermined yourself.


  • I’m in my mid 40s and have about a dozen friends and many more acquaintances that I see regularly for reasons exactly like this. In person Pathfinder with local friends, online D&D with some remote friends, and earlier this year started going to local fighting game community events which has caused a huge influx of new friends.