In what settings is it socially acceptable to talk to strangers?
In what settings is it socially acceptable to talk to strangers?
First off, thank you for engaging critically with my comments rather than dismissing them :) I apologize for the delayed response, I had to sort my thoughts about this.
Basically, your brain thinking “no, don’t do creepy shit.”
But with your example, exercising rationality actually would help, because “the sadness that comes from seeing couples in public or among your friends and knowing that you’ll never experience what they’re doing” is actually an irrational thought.
Isn’t it kind of an example of what you stated in the previous paragraph? By acknowledging that women don’t see me as a potential partner, my brain is preventing me from hurting women by showing my romantic interest. While I could try to combat this thought, it would not be in the best interest of others.
On the contrary, wanting a partner is an irrational thought because it ultimately comes from the natural instinct to reproduce. Hypothetically, if I were asexual, I could just live a fulfilling life alone and everyone would be better off.
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If by “acting on them” you mean staring, catcalling, asking out, etc. I’m already trying my best to not do that. I’d say I’m quite successful at it, though in crowded spaces it’s often difficult to find a direction to look in that doesn’t contain a woman. And my mom sometimes tells me that I should look at and approach women, so there’s social pressure too.
However, what draws people to incel spaces is the sadness that comes from seeing couples in public or among your friends and knowing that you’ll never experience what they’re doing. Unless I’m misunderstanding, I don’t think what you’re suggesting helps with that.
Do you have any resources on that? All the ones I’ve found suggest that feelings of attraction are hard-wired into the brain and getting rid of them is impossible.
It is often said that “facts don’t care about feelings”, unfortunately, the reverse is also true: feelings don’t care about facts. I rationally know that I should respect women’s rights to not have undesirable men be attracted to them, but I still feel the attraction and don’t know how to deal with it.
Try writing 20 algebraic manipulations of the equation on paper and you’ll quickly understand why it’s written that way.
Why not just add function overloading to the language and have a function named copy
that takes a string and an optional character count?
IMO, The best way to stop it would be to find ways for men to stop being attracted to women and desiring a romantic/sexual relationship. Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be much research around that.
There are more straight men who want a partner than women, so someone will be inevitably left out no matter the amount of therapy.
As someone who used to visit incel communities (though I never supported the misogynist views), I think a lot of the appeal comes from the fact that they seem to be the only support groups for lonely men. Why aren’t there any non-toxic ones?
Okay, but why does the gender need to be mentioned?
I don’t know. I’m mildly left by normal standards, a Nazi by Lemmy standards and a communist by conservative standards.
To be honest, my comment probably applies more to gets
, but the point is the same.
Good for you. Not all of us have terabytes of free space on our computers.
Only a part. A lot of the complexity is completely unnecessary.
Or Nim?
What’s the point of having a function in the standard library if the universal recommendation is to never use it?
Rust is downloading 1546 dependencies
For whatever reason, GIMP includes this image of a green pepper as a built-in brush.