I feel like i see a joke or comic like this every two months.
Here’s the thing, if you are unsure about the messages you’re receiving and decided not to act, you did the correct thing. You were wise not to interpret uncertain signals as signs of romantic interest, no matter how clear they were in hindsight. If a woman is interested in you, the onus is on her to make that unambiguous and take the next step, because she’s not the one who’s advances could be mistaken as dangerous.
I have spent the last 20 minutes trying to come up with a reply to this, but I just can’t get my head around it.
imo, if you’re interested in a person, acting is always the correct thing to do, because it’s the only thing that resolves aforementioned ambiguity. But acting also always involves asking. Asking someone out on a date, or just to meet up. In regards to physical stuff, asking if you can touch or kiss somebody. Is there something I miss here?
This isn’t a comic about someone with self esteem / confidence issues being unable to figure out if this is a hint they’re interested or if they’re just being friendly.
This was a comic about someone not realizing they were being flirted with at all.
No, you could act on in appropriately. Ask on a date, go in for a kiss etc whatever the situation calls for. You can’t force yourself on them or keep trying if you get turned down. But expressing your own interest is the only way either of you will know what’s going on.
Eh, maybe if it’s a stranger, but if I’m ever going to see this person again, I’m not going to take that chance unless she’s waving me in with those airport lightsabers.
written like a true teenager with no life experience whatsoever!
why is everyone in this thread acting like girls (or boys) are this mythical perfect beings who always know perfectly what they know and it’s just a question of figuring out the puzzle and finding the best reaction…
I was in this very situation where a girl gave me hints but took a step back every time i approached her. I decided not to be too aggressive and ask her out, because i was raised (2012) in a time where it felt like even asking a girl out would be seen as sexual harassment.
In retrospect i must say i feel terrible about it because i feel as if i should have just told her how i feel.
You can’t expect someone else to be unambiguous. It’s not a one-way street and no o e wants to be rejected. Talk to people you like, be respectful, ask them out if it feels right, and accept the answer enthusiastically either way. Grow friendships first, and keep them.
I feel like i see a joke or comic like this every two months.
Here’s the thing, if you are unsure about the messages you’re receiving and decided not to act, you did the correct thing. You were wise not to interpret uncertain signals as signs of romantic interest, no matter how clear they were in hindsight. If a woman is interested in you, the onus is on her to make that unambiguous and take the next step, because she’s not the one who’s advances could be mistaken as dangerous.
You did the right thing.
I have spent the last 20 minutes trying to come up with a reply to this, but I just can’t get my head around it.
imo, if you’re interested in a person, acting is always the correct thing to do, because it’s the only thing that resolves aforementioned ambiguity. But acting also always involves asking. Asking someone out on a date, or just to meet up. In regards to physical stuff, asking if you can touch or kiss somebody. Is there something I miss here?
Yes, the stigmatization of high school boys.
“onus”
Sheesh, you got a stick up your anise or something?
Really onul retentive.
Good catch, I’ll correct it 👍
This isn’t a comic about someone with self esteem / confidence issues being unable to figure out if this is a hint they’re interested or if they’re just being friendly.
This was a comic about someone not realizing they were being flirted with at all.
No, you could act on in appropriately. Ask on a date, go in for a kiss etc whatever the situation calls for. You can’t force yourself on them or keep trying if you get turned down. But expressing your own interest is the only way either of you will know what’s going on.
Eh, maybe if it’s a stranger, but if I’m ever going to see this person again, I’m not going to take that chance unless she’s waving me in with those airport lightsabers.
written like a true teenager with no life experience whatsoever!
why is everyone in this thread acting like girls (or boys) are this mythical perfect beings who always know perfectly what they know and it’s just a question of figuring out the puzzle and finding the best reaction…
I was in this very situation where a girl gave me hints but took a step back every time i approached her. I decided not to be too aggressive and ask her out, because i was raised (2012) in a time where it felt like even asking a girl out would be seen as sexual harassment.
In retrospect i must say i feel terrible about it because i feel as if i should have just told her how i feel.
You can’t expect someone else to be unambiguous. It’s not a one-way street and no o e wants to be rejected. Talk to people you like, be respectful, ask them out if it feels right, and accept the answer enthusiastically either way. Grow friendships first, and keep them.
Here’s your prescription of copium, have a nice day.
You’re still an asshole even if the person you’re responding to is wrong
Reread the comic she did ask him out directly
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