• MNByChoice@midwest.social
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    1 year ago

    The secret account is not for hiding money during a divorce. It is for fleeing or paying for expenses while going through the divorce.

    It is common for one spouse, or the other, to empty all accounts in the lead up to the divorce. It does not matter how right you are when you cannot buy your kids food.

    This is advice from an 85 year old. She has seen soon shit.

    A couple thousand in an “oh shit” account is rational.

    This is not appreciated though if money is tight.

    • aes@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      It doesn’t even need to be a secret account, def see it being a hella good litmus test, too; check whether someone’s “I love you” means “no matter what, right now I want the best for you” or “I want to own you”

      guys like that are… just no