Most people who have children don’t know how to do it right and too many are children themselves emotionally/mentally, so they model all the bad behaviors they punish the children for, it’s crazy! They punish for natural emotional responses to life events and don’t care to understand what’s going on, just blame as bad and punish. Enmeshment and other unhealthy, dysfunctional ways they think are normal and good. They do the same unhealthy ways they never questioned and stay in low-level thinking, easier, fit in with others, tradition, “we turned out good enough” they delude themselves.