A teacher molesting a student. Standard. What about yours?

  • j4k3@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Gym teacher ran a friend of mine to death right in front of me. He had a brain aneurism. That was when I was in fourth grade.

    I had a highschool chemistry teacher that failed two whole semesters of students with botched and terrible curriculum management with substitute teachers that had no instructions. The teacher had his wife diagnosed with late stage terminal cancer but was a year away from retirement. The lack of any reasonable safety nets for such a terrible situation wrecked many students lives mine included. How the whole situation was handled was so bad I hated anything academic related.

    • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.alOP
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      I’m really sorry your friend died like that, it’s tragic and a terrible thing to see. How did you get through it?

      I can really relate to the negative school experience. My school was horrible, they made really unfair decisions and was really destructive. It really fucks students up, and the damage can be lifelong… there should be more checks and balanced IMO

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        I’m not very emotional like that. Things are not traumatic in ways I process with immediacy. I still think about him from time to time over 30 years later, so I’m still processing it in a way.

        With my almost dying from the crash that disabled me, I have an ongoing hypothesis that humans do not actually experience death in a way that can be processed and understood. Death happens in the limbic system which is like the human kernel space while the conscious mind exists more in a operating system like user space. We can experience the pain and all, but that isn’t related to actual death.

        We were inside a gym with a large basketball court running laps. I thought he had just tripped over his shoelaces or something. He was only a few feet ahead of me. Then I saw his face was dark reddish purple and his eyes had the most blank stare. He convulsed a few times and that was it. He was likely gone before he hit the ground and never processed or knew it.

        In my crash, I lost 3 hours where my memory failed. I was lucid through parts of that, but it is like the blackest black in my mind. I had extensive fractured damage but of particular concern was the base of my skull and C1 around my brain stem. That whole experience processed different than other serious injuries.

        I watched a 36yo woman die after crashing on an e-bike in 2022 and she appeared much the same like she did not see death coming at all.

        I abstract about everything as a curiosity. At the time he died, it was an anomaly I didn’t really understand. It might have made headaches a little more concerning. Now, I think he died super quickly and in a way he did not likely experience in the conscious mind. It was not bad at all for him. His family must have been devastated and traumatized, but I didn’t know them.