He should let her “earn” lots of cash then divorce her, receive half of everything.
“There is so much to unpack and learn from an exchange like this.”
Yeah, no kidding.
Husband’s probably regretting some life decisions right about now, and I guarantee they’re not related to his not getting any awards or certifications.
Given that this is a self-promoting self-appointed CEO of a Virginia based IT consulting firm with… very few employees, idk, man. The “husband” in this non-exchange seems like a prop for marketing material.
The last line says it all. She’s just selling certification training. None of this is sincere.
Seems like a shitty way to sell certifications because like yeah I would be perfectly fine going a year without getting a certification. Do you have imposter syndrome that bad that you need to waste money in order to feel competent?
It got reposted, which is all that really matters. I’m sure there’s some Girlboss middle manager by way of Microsoft or Amazon or Langley who will click with this.
Do you have imposter syndrome that bad that you need to waste money in order to feel competent?
This could easily have been chucked out with ChatGPT alongside a dozen other A/B tested solicitation strategies under other accounts with different Avis and company names.
You can’t take any of this at face value. Is this company real or is it just a shell to wrangle business for an offshore bulk cert program? Is this profile real or is it a front for a bunch of hustlers in a boiler room? Is this conversation real or is it just some scripted nonsense intended to grab your attention?
I’m betting it’s fake top to bottom. Six workers in Indonesia cranked it out along with a thousand other profiles during a 12 hour $20 shift. Responding to it would be as wise as answering a call to Scam Likely and immediately blurting out your SSN.
Pretty sure the “you” in the post you’re responding to is the “you as in one as in some hypothetical person” and not “you as in UnderpantsWeevil” – perhaps not but I’ve definitely been in this change where I use “you” instead of “one” and had people jump all over me for attacking the op.
Wouldn’t be surprised if all this crap is being written by ChatGPT nowadays with no input from a real person.
Now thinking about it, LunaticdIn seems like the most fertile ground for AI to take over with this sort of bullshit.
regardless of sex, anyone making this claim is clearly broken inside. kinda sad.
That doesn’t read as much as blasting her husband as it does as blasting herself.
Yeah. She is directly stating that her husband was able to live a whole year without markers of external validation and wonders how to be that way herself.
I read it the way you did. The post title is misleading
Yeah I read it the same way too. That being said, this woman probably needs a therapist more than LinkedIn, but I guess that’s why this community is called LinkedInLunatics
I didn’t pick this for its grounded view on reality.
Yes, but it reads more to the tone of “my greatest weakness is I am too successful”, like it’s more about bragging about herself than it is actually being introspective.
Reread the post, this person^ is right
The lunacy part is posting this to LinkedIn rather than discussing in private with a therapist.
She’s sharing something she struggles with because she believes other women may struggle with it as well and knowing you’re not alone is help in and of itself. It isn’t even something that personal. The only lunacy I see here is all the comments that insist sharing your feelings is lunacy.
LinkedIn is not a venue for discussion though. Only people born into extreme wealth have the privilege of saying anything other than “I love corporations 😍” on their LinkedIn profile.
It’s not meant to be a discussion. She’s just looking for peers that may feel the way she does because sometimes a “me too” is enough. I have no idea what the rest of your comment is trying to say.
Every thing she lists is fluff.
If you are an employed professional you are spending your year doing your job. Not going back to school to pick up a certificate for fun or finding a documentary to be in (what even is this?)
I imagine the husband biting through his cheek during this grilling thinking “yea I’m busy fucking doing things.”
These are the people who are annoying and useless as shit in IT. Most coworkers I’ve had who are constantly getting certifications or attending conferences contribute very little in the way of work or knowledge. The information required to get those certifications goes in one ear and out the other for them. People like that are more interested in clout than anything.
Not to say anyone taking training or certifications is like this, but there is a specific type obsessed with these “markers” that spend the majority of their time chasing certifications and things of that nature.
On the flip side, I have a beast of a coworker who says she doesn’t do anything tech related outside of work to decompress and she’s easily one of our most productive and likable coworkers.
If the husband even exists
If he does he might be wishing he didn’t.
Naw, you should see his post hawking relationship counseling
Every thing she lists is fluff.
You’re absolutely right. What was the clear cut career accomplishment? What did she contribute? This is a lot of words that don’t seem to include any of those accomplishments while shitting on someone who seems to have a rich and fulfilling life when he’s not listening to this “everybody clapped” story.
If you actually read the post, she’s not “blasting” her husband. She’s seeing him be perfectly content without chasing all those markers of career success, and questioning why she cannot do the same. She’s realising that she relies on external validation to feel happy, and that that’s not a good thing.
That’s the kind of people who constantly change positions, switch projects, get promoted etc. The success of the projects depends on stable people like her husband.
Not only that a whole lot of people here don’t have reading comprehension, the level of salt and misogyny are weird and not in a good way…
It’s the literal definition of a humblebrag though. Or at the very least, worded in a bait-ey way to try and get attention from appearing to be controversial. If you strip away the style and fluff from the post, then yes you can read it in the way you’re saying. But that controversial-ness is clearly intentional.
At the most charitable, it’s a failed attempt at humor. The less charitable read is that the second half of the post is just providing some plausible deniability to her being yet another insufferable Linkedin self-promoter.
Yeah she doesn’t speak bad about him for it. She does pose the question at the end to others if it would change their views of people they knew if they didn’t want those types of accomplishments though. She doesn’t answer if it does for herself necessarily, so there is not really any clear answer. It’s pointless to analyse.
What I read: I require external validation instead of finding it from within.
Realistically all these achievements mean nothing when you die and are forgotten. It doesn’t necessarily invalidate the work and accomplishments but I’d argue it doesn’t give an individual the “higher ground” to belittle a partner on social media; they may not value it the same.
I require external validation instead of finding it from within.
I am not on LinkedIn, but from the outside this seems to be the trend there.
Where is the belittling?
Is this a rhetorical question? Or does this comes down to perspective? For the latter I would explain it as me seeing contempt from this person’s messaging around their partner seeming OK with not achieving things she defines as important. She then takes, what I would consider a personal conversation, to social media for what I can only assume is support from like-minded people to validate her.
TL;DR the premise itself is belittling
Is it? It seems more introspective than anything. She acknowledges her initial confusion at his contentment despite not achieving those things, then turns right around to ask why she herself has trouble finding contentment that way. She only really brings up the “belittling” comments to immediately subvert them.
Psychopath behavior. This is who America rewards.
This is who America rewards.
No, we have a system that rewards this behavior and punishes any one who wants to be decent for being a “sucker”
That’s a great question for your therapist, Stacey.
“Exchange” implies that information flowed in both directions in a transactional manner. Never before heard the term used to describe “one-sided, manic, belittling, self-aggrandizing, tone-deaf tirade.” Live and learn, I guess.
She lives to work
He works to live
Tune in for the next season of Never Happy
When did people start this whole CEO cosplay shit?
One day I woke up and everyone is now CEO girlboss power ranger who sleeps 2 hours per day while working 28 hours per day building greatness for the litttle people.
The title of this post is misleading. She’s not blasting her husband. She’s wondering why she can’t be content without these things.
Bitch, please. I’m here to get money. I’ll get certs and shit only if it helps me bring something home. Otherwise: fuck you, pay me.
Honestly? This is equally obnoxious. The grind culture people are so boring to me. Most of them have no hobbies or personalities.
Getting certificates is a pretty weird hobby
LOL! So I said, “this is equally obnoxious”, and you heard, “this is worse and I actively do the former”. Are you not very good at reading, or???
Could you go a year without a new certification, interview, award, or promotion and be OK with yourself for it?
Yes. Easily. My job isnt my whole life, as long as I feel good about the work I did over the year, I see no reason to change.
Would you think about a colleague, direct report, friend, or spouse differently for doing so?
No. Absolutely not. In fact, I’d be more worried that they’ll burn out if all they think about is this shit, and tell them to get a hobby that isn’t related to their job so that they can direct that energy somewhere other than getting pieces of paper that say “I can job good”
